Planning Ahead
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to start planning. We can talk through care wishes, family conversations, vigil and funeral preferences, legacy ideas, and the details you want documented.
Clarity. Comfort. Connection.
Support for planning ahead, death & dying, grief & loss.
I believe we can talk openly about difficult things without making every moment heavy.
Welcome
Green Butterfly supports people planning ahead, facing serious illness or death, caring for someone they love, or living with grief. I offer practical and emotional support shaped by what matters to you.
Death and grief can bring practical questions, difficult conversations, changing roles, and a lot of uncertainty. Green Butterfly offers space to talk about what’s on your mind, make plans, and get support without judgment or pressure.
I won’t tell you what your experience should look like or promise to make a difficult situation easy. I can offer honest conversation, practical help, and a steady presence while you consider choices, ask questions, care for someone, or live with loss.
Fear, sadness, frustration, humor, love, relief, and even joy can exist in the same experience.
Support for what’s ahead
Illness & Dying
Support may include companionship, caregiver support, family conversations, information about the dying process, bedside guidance, vigil presence, and immediate next steps after a death.
Grief Coaching
Grief coaching offers practical support with navigating change, communication, and difficult moments. Grief can be connected to death, caregiving, illness, or other changes that alter the life you knew.
A Little About Me
Hi, I’m Jill, an end-of-life doula and grief coach in Oklahoma City. I’ve been interested in death, dying, and grief for much of my life. Hospice volunteering gave that interest direction and inspired me to learn more. I completed end-of-life doula and grief coaching certifications, then became a certified nursing assistant to deepen my understanding of hospice and bedside care. I now work at the inpatient hospice where I first volunteered.
Before hospice, I spent more than 20 years in the nonprofit world and earned a master’s degree in psychology. Those experiences strengthened the skills I bring to this work: listening closely, explaining complicated information clearly, staying steady when emotions are high, and helping people identify what matters most to them.
My mom died in 2008, and the connection I still feel with her is part of the story behind Green Butterfly. As I began questioning whether end-of-life doula work was the right path for me, I asked her for a very specific sign in a completely unexpected place. A few weeks later, I absentmindedly picked up a card in a local shop. When I looked down, I realized a green butterfly was pinned to it—the exact sign I had asked for. I was already doing this work, but that moment confirmed the direction I was moving and gave Green Butterfly its name.
Services
& Pricing
Request a Free Consultation30 minutes to talk through what you need.
No pressure to move forward.
Making a PlanFor anyone who wants to clarify and communicate their end-of-life wishes.
- Three two-hour sessions, in person or virtually
- Conversations about your values, priorities, and concerns
- Advance planning guidance for care, vigil, and funeral preferences
- Preparation for and facilitation of conversations with loved ones
- Guidance and assistance with legacy projects
$600
Support Along the WayConsistent companionship through serious illness or the end of life.
- Three two-hour sessions of companionship per month
- Space for conversation, reflection, and emotional or spiritual support
- General education for loved ones about the dying process
- Brief phone check-ins between visits
$500 per month
Honoring the StoryA compassionate space to remember and honor someone after their death.
- Two individual or family sessions, up to 60 minutes each
- Planning a remembrance ritual within those sessions
- Suggestions for personal memorial practices and keepsakes
- One follow-up phone check-in
$300
Individual ServicesBook a single session or arrange ongoing support.
- Advance planning and documenting care wishes
- Planning conversations and family meetings
- Education about the dying process and nonmedical bedside care
- Virtual or in-person companionship and caregiver support
- In-person nonmedical respite
- Emotional support through grief, anticipatory loss, or significant life changes
- Life reviews, legacy projects, ceremonies, rituals, and personal tributes
- Vigil and after-death planning
Planning and project-based individual services have a $150 minimum.
$75 per hour
Bedside and Vigil SupportAvailable by prior arrangement and subject to availability.
Support may include a calm bedside presence, emotional or spiritual companionship, music or rituals, and help communicating your wishes. Visits are scheduled in advance, based on availability.
$100 per hour
Frequently Asked Questions
What is an end-of-life doula?
An end-of-life doula is a nonmedical support person who may help with advance planning, family conversations, companionship, caregiver support, bedside presence, vigils, legacy work, remembrance, and grief.
When should I reach out?
Whether you're planning ahead, facing a diagnosis, caring for someone you love, grieving a loss, or approaching the end of life, you're welcome to reach out. You don't have to wait for a crisis or know exactly what you need. We can start with a conversation.
Do you replace hospice or the healthcare team?
No. I provide nonmedical support alongside hospice, healthcare providers, spiritual care, funeral professionals, and the people already in your life. I do not direct medical care.
Do I need to be religious or spiritual?
Not at all. I welcome people of all beliefs and backgrounds. My support is guided by what matters to you.
What happens during the free consultation?
We'll spend up to 30 minutes together, in person or virtually, talking about what's happening, answering questions, and deciding whether working together feels like a good fit.
Where do you offer support?
In-person support is available in northwest Oklahoma City, Edmond, and nearby areas. Other locations may be considered based on distance and availability. Phone and video support are also available, including virtual services outside Oklahoma when appropriate.
Let’s Talk
You don't need to know exactly what you're looking for before reaching out. Have a question? Want to share a little about what's going on? Let's start there. We can talk through what matters most and see how I might be able to help.
